It's okay to have a bad day.



Saying the words and admitting you need help is the beginning and start of everything. You are making yourself seem vulnerable or at least that is how you feel. There is that saying about even if you are in a room full of people, you still feel alone. Well that is how I felt or even still feel most of the time. 

(Please remember these views are my own personal opinion and this may not work for you but this is my experience and we are each on our own journey)

I used to feel so guilty if I had a bad day, I used to feel as though I was letting others down or ruining whatever it was for everyone else. You need to understand how important it is for you to accept that bad days are okay. Sometimes a day lay in bed binge watching something on Netflix is exactly what you need to make you feel okay again and you should not feel guilty about this at all. Believe me, there is nothing worse than being in a situation that you don't want to be in when you are feeling low. I have been at family/friends events and half way through burst into tears feeling so low and anxious and just wanting to get out. The whole time this was happening all I felt was that I had ruined their day and felt so guilty for leaving. The following day I had a 'me' day and felt better for it.

Recently, I have felt the best I have this year but believe me I have had so many bad days to get here. When you have bad days all you feel is that you will never get past it but believe me, you do and you can. The one best thing I can say is to make sure you have a good group of people around you, it is so important to have a good support system. I have grown so close to my family through my journey with mental health and I could not of got through it without them. They have supported me through my best days as well as my worst and unfortunately they have seen me in some very low states. 


The bad days do make you appreciate and accept the better days so much more. Think of this journey as getting through every bad day makes you so much stronger. You are a stronger individual for getting through this journey. It sounds so clichĂ© but it will get better. 

There are so many different organisations out there to support you and I was extremely sceptical about approaching any of them but mental health organisations and workers have helped me so much. They also make you appreciate that 'you' days are okay and vital in your recovery and journey. If you don't want to go to that family meal, don't go. If you don't want to leave the house today, don't do it. If the only way of you seeing anyone is by your mum coming in your room asking if you are going downstairs for a cup of tea, that is okay too. All of these things I have done or in this case not done. 

The people you are closest to will realise that these days can't be helped and that it is okay for you to experience days like this.  

Please do not feel guilty for having bad days or you days.
You will be stronger for them.

Much love
x

5 comments

  1. Me days are so so important, if I didn't take the time to just chill out and do something for me then I don't know what I'd do. I'm trying to work on not feeling so guilty for it and this post is so helpful x

    Alice www.accordingtoalicex.com

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    1. This is the idea behind yin and yang. Life is a balance. Meaning because you have bad days, you can have good ones too. Great post!

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  2. Taking time out for yourself is a HUGE thing for people in general, let alone those that struggle with mental health so it's even more important for the people fighting that battle. So glad you're feeling better in yourself girl, keep doing you. <3
    Alice Xx
    www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

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  3. Aw such a beautiful piece, I feel guilty when I have a bad day too; most days I feel unwell or so fatigued and it makes me feel so badly like I'm letting those around me down >< I really needed to read this, thank you so much! xx

    elizabeth ♡ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara
    (I would love to follow each other on bloglovin if you like! :D)

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  4. This is just what I needed to read. I always feel bad, but I need to remember myself should be my number 1! I need to look after myself before anyone else xox

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